Brilliant Adult Dating

In the same way as men, women have some general rules that they must contend with when entering the dating jungle. We all know everyone is different so don’t take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy over some literature published recently in the USA that sets out in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or woman). Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider’s 1995 bestseller “The Rules,” explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy. Some groups of people complained about this document but the fact is when we grow up there are a predefined set of dating rules. All that happens is that we forget most of them after the age of 21 and then find we need to relearn them.

The Rules

I wish there weren’t any general rules and we just got on with it but courtship is a ritual; there are things that we make happen that excite stimulate, create interest, confound, etc. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves together then the chances of long term happiness may be reduced. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages work too interestingly.

In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date there are things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game then there are rules to that game and winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge so feel free to adapt rule and add them as you feel inclined.

Remember ladies that you are a sexy desirable woman and the world is your oyster. Always let men do the chasing and always let you be the chooser. Always stay safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date. Always use a safe dating website, Internet dating is a fairly recent phenomenon and you should take care. In every industry there are the cheap and cheerful options, but where affairs of the heart are concerned, Internet dating is best selected carefully.

First Impressions

If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.

Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick and wearing rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage, you are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time. Remember to always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s prerogative.

Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.

Expectations

Dump him if: his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, he shows signs of possessiveness or insecurity, or he doesn’t know what a florist is.

Ensure you receive flowers. Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.

Delivery

Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss so practice on a mirror if you have to. Never reveal information you don’t have to. An enigmatic and mysterious woman drives men wild. Keep the date brief but keep him interested.

Don’ts

Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
Never ever talk about previous boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The number of ex boyfriends is your business only.
Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
Never ever come across as too available or too desperate, he will run a mile. Remember, he is the one doing the chasing.
You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
If you want a child, don’t mention it on the first few dates.
Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.

Either you are a guy who knows how to date, hasn’t dated in years, or has never been successful with women. Whatever your situation there are some common dating rules to follow when venturing into the dating jungle. These rules are simply to protect your emotional state and to ensure even-handed success. Women are trained from day one in the art of dating warfare. They have a physical and emotional arsenal that you may never hope to match. But don’t be outgunned, be prepared my friends as the dating battle isn’t over yet buddy.

 

Look Your Best

 

Get some decent clothes and shoes. Women always look at your shoes even if the last time you checked your Nikes out was 1996. Get clothes that fit you, suit you and are contemporary. Don’t just buy one outfit; sort out your entire wardrobe. If you can’t take care of yourself, how are you going to take care of her? Oh yes and buy a good well tailored suit, there is no excuse not to.

 

Hygiene and Style

 

Down to the barbers and sort out your hair, get a decent style if possible. If you don’t have much hair still get down to the salon and either get your head shaved or something you can handle. Then it is off to the shops with you for good quality cologne and a grooming kit. Yes that means some expense. Men are so often criticized for smelling bad. Get into a regular showering routine and smell good always. Women appreciate it.

 

Occupation

 

Women want a man who has some ambition in life; coasting along as a skateboard instructor is generally not going to win you a real catch. Any job is better than none, but knuckle down and sort out some direction in your life. Change your career if needs be but at least try and look like you have goals. If you have a manual job, at least have some plans to work for yourself. If you are already self-employed then you are on the right track; know what direction your business is taking and have some idea of your future, they will be ask questions about your prospects even if they pretend it isn’t important.

 

Intelligence

 

Make sure you are up to date with current affairs, watch the news and read quality papers. Women do not appreciate stupidity; laziness is no excuse either. Current affairs are important in showing you know all about the world outside. If you travel a lot then this will help tremendously, if you don’t have plans to travel, get some. Being able and willing to sort out vacations is essential in the grand scheme of things.

 

Interests

 

Do not extol the virtues of drinking in the bar 5 nights a week. This will never win any fair princess’s heart. If you love your booze sort yourself out as there are other things in life too. Taking your lady for a drink is fine; but if you give her the impression that you live there you won’t get very far.

 

If you love your sport then fine. If sport is a religion you may have a problem but preach it in moderation. If you are serious about dating, ramming the subject of football down your date’s throat will put them off. Sport to the uninitiated is completely boring and shows not only sheep mentality to a woman but lack of thought, creativity or inspiration. Millions of girls love sport too and that is fine but don’t make your passion into a one-sided one.

 

Expectations

 

Never expect sex on a first date. If all you are after is sex you have come to the wrong place for reading material. If you are looking for the girl of your dreams there is nothing sexier than a patient man. You are easily capable of waiting for the right woman so do it instead of thinking with your balls.

 

Behaviour

 

Brush up on the art of seduction. A woman likes being treated well, particularly with respect. Lose the coarse language, the swear words, the rudeness and the laziness. Know how to eat in a classy restaurant, know about fashion, jewellery, and flowers. Know how to hold a door open for a woman; let her go first and help her with her seat. Listen to what she says but have opinions of your own too. Show her respect and manners at every step and you should not go wrong.

 

Start listening and stop talking. Keep your date interested but don’t turn into a one man entertainer. She will bore of you quickly because she wants to talk about herself too. Listen to things she tells you about her and remember them. Women love to chat so you need to learn to listen to her. Remembering things she told you will impress her.

 

Give up smoking now.

 

Dancing

 

Learn to dance even if you have two left flat feet. Women love to dance and dancing is a physical contact sport (or can be). It is also romantic and sexy. You can be the world’s worst dancer, I don’t care. But if you stay seated when she is on that dance floor you may as well not exist. If you can join Salsa and dancing classes, it will go better. You don’t need to be Travolta but you should have an idea of the basics of rhythm. Get started today. If you have used an online dating site before, you will be aware of the general rules and code of practice. Adult dating sites are the same, don’t assume that sites designed for more intimate encounters require less effort or that members looking for casual dates are less deserving of your politeness or curtesy. In fact, if you want to get with as many women as possible, you better come prepared to charm and woo all the women you meet as there are no shortage of guys looking to chat to horny women.