In the same way as men, women have some general rules that they must contend with when entering the dating jungle. We all know everyone is different so don’t take things too seriously here. There has been some controversy over some literature published recently in the USA that sets out in detail the rules a woman should follow to get her guy (or woman). Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider’s 1995 bestseller “The Rules,” explains how women should play hard if they want to get their guy. Some groups of people complained about this document but the fact is when we grow up there are a predefined set of dating rules. All that happens is that we forget most of them after the age of 21 and then find we need to relearn them.
I wish there weren’t any general rules and we just got on with it but courtship is a ritual; there are things that we make happen that excite stimulate, create interest, confound, etc. Dating is a long test of compatibility. Are we perfectly matched? If we just threw ourselves together then the chances of long term happiness may be reduced. And yet previous generations managed to succeed on a far less complex courtship criteria list. Many arranged marriages work too interestingly.
In every society there are a predefined set of social rules we follow, from the way and timing of eating to the way we behave in public. The issue here is that when women date there are things that can help them be more successful. If we accept that dating is a game then there are rules to that game and winners and losers. If you know the rules in advance it gives you a head start. If men know the rules by which you are playing you may change the rules to suit the situation to keep the man guessing. Men love a challenge so feel free to adapt rule and add them as you feel inclined.
Remember ladies that you are a sexy desirable woman and the world is your oyster. Always let men do the chasing and always let you be the chooser. Always stay safe and never risk yourself for the sake of attending a date. Always use a safe dating website, Internet dating is a fairly recent phenomenon and you should take care. In every industry there are the cheap and cheerful options, but where affairs of the heart are concerned, Internet dating is best selected carefully.
If he is available Tuesday, you are available Thursday.
Always look great, whatever your income. Gorgeous hair and some lipstick and wearing rags will still turn his head. You have the advantage, you are the woman. Look your best as you could meet a potential Mr. Right anywhere at any time. Remember to always keep a guy waiting and never turn up early. It is a lady’s prerogative.
Try and stay in shape and involve some fitness regime at a gym. However much you hate it, your Mr. Right loves your body as much as your mind.
Dump him if: his shoes or hygiene are a disgrace, he shows signs of possessiveness or insecurity, or he doesn’t know what a florist is.
Ensure you receive flowers. Let your man pay. If he is interested, he is interested enough to ensure you eat well and get home safely in a cab.
Ensure you are a good kisser. Men will walk away if you cannot kiss so practice on a mirror if you have to. Never reveal information you don’t have to. An enigmatic and mysterious woman drives men wild. Keep the date brief but keep him interested.
Never ever sleep with a guy until he has fallen for you. Sex early in your dating game plan will ruin everything.
Never be available when he wants you to be. Never be at the end of a phone when he calls and always let him leave a message or two first before replying.
Weekend shopping trips with girlfriends are sacred and not available for dates.
Keep your man standing on quicksand by shifting landmarks and goalposts constantly.
Never ever talk about previous boyfriends and particularly their prowess in the bedroom. The number of ex boyfriends is your business only.
Never pre suppose anything about your date until you choose to know him better. You cannot always tell by looking.
Never talk too much about your father and how your date measures up in comparison.
Never ever come across as too available or too desperate, he will run a mile. Remember, he is the one doing the chasing.
You may well have all the bodily functions of a man, just try not to demonstrate them early on.
If you want a child, don’t mention it on the first few dates.
Never ever criticize his mother unless you want to remain single.